Where have YOU been, miss you too... dont see you on IM anymore. We have a lot more catching up to do. PS, things are good, thanks, you?[luckylasvegas]
dude, you need to write a new entry, lol... all these comments are getting long... do you have a myspace or anything?
Ok, so Frenchie comes back on Tuesday (but who's counting, lol).. As for the no contact, that is hard to say, I have done it both extremes; no contact with the ex and I even had a breakup where he and I talked every day and said I love you all the time and "loved each other" through the breakup... I would say it depends on the situation - The question is this: Is talking to her holding you back from moving on? Then no contact would be best; make it so you cant contact her; erase her number, pics, everything... no drunk dialing at 2am.lol. If you think it's healthy for you and you get something good out of it, then who cares, keep talking to her. I still talk to most of my exes - even the one I had no contact with, it was for about 6mos while I grieved and moved on, after that, we became great friends. But if you are just talking to her cuz you want to hear something like she still loves you, etc. Then, no, it's better to move on - you should sign up for match.com or something like that and get out there and start dating... hell, it helps me, and inevitebly, I meet some one new - aka frenchie and start up something potentially really good.
Lets figure out a way to talk outside of this dumb website so that our talks are not so catalogued for every one to see. Ideas? It's going to be ok darling, don't worry.[luckylasvegas]
I'm going to add something to my last comment here; You should pick up the phone and make plans for every night to be with some one,family, friend neighbor whoever, some one you always meant to get to know or spend time with; keep your calendar full.
Second, do not do anything drastic that is unnecessary; dont make major purchases, move, change jobs, nothing unless it is necessary, it might be a reaction to how you are feeling and you might regret it later.
Third, do not go out and schtoop some new girl; I promise you, all that will do is make you feel like ur cheating on your ex, AND when you realize the emotional connection isn't there with the new person, it will hurt you even more; you will miss her more; remembering how good the sex was when there was an emotional connection... trust me on this one.
Lastly, stay away from numbifiers; like drugs, alcohol, etc. again,it really only prolongs things; when you sober up, there it is again, waiting for you to deal with it. Keep your partying in check.
And free shrink advice? Get out a piece of paper; or hell, use this site, and make 2 lists - the first one, things I really didn't like about (whatever her name is) and get really detailed and picky about it, nit pick per apart. THEN, the 2nd one, is Great things about Me that I know she will miss, (yes, inventory your good qualities). If you ever feel like you miss her, break out your two lists and realize, she was not that great, not tha perfect, and look at all that you have to offer a new person who will appreciate it and you.
OK,you need to keep writing, we care, and we miss you,
Dang boy!!! Well, i would advise you to drop her. Your situation reminds me of one i was in. I was with a nice guy and i totally screwed things up and hurt him. I kept going back and forth to him and evey time i would go back...he would fall or me again and i just kept hurting him....it's similar to how she f***ed you over and you love her so much. If she keeps coming into ur life,ur gonna end up so messed up.
On another note, glad to know ur ok! Sucks about ur car. I know the feeling,but at least u got another ride and some extra cash to buy beer with.LOL. Just have a sick party and get so f***ed up, you screw someone else to get over the whore who did you wrong. What a loser she is to screw that up.Take care!
haha, he comes back on tuesday, not to far, not too close. i mean, who the heck sends you romantic text messages in french?? lol.
okay, so about your situation; i was going to just keep my mouth shut, but what I can tell you is this, I'm obviously older than you, have been married, I have 2 kids, etc. and obviously by my dating blog, you can tell I have had my share of relationship experience, good and bad. The best things you can do for yourself right now is this; do nice things for yourself; especially if it was something you felt like you couldn't do or couldnt' have when she was around.. it felt good after my husb and I got divorced to go and buy tomatoes - he always hated them so we never had them. It's those things that remind you to love yourself first, some one else second. And missing her is totally normal. and you are right to think that it's not love to do that to some one. you have a lot of years ahead of you to meet and spend time with the right person.. at my age (close to 30), I have had good and bad relationships and I'm still looking for that one, but as you can see, im incredibly picky and I intend to stay that way. lol. there is a book called, how to fall out of love with some one, some tactics in that book might help you. they helped me, but also, getting out there and meeting new people will help also, you have to force yourself the first time, but once you realize how good it feels, you will do it again and again. Surround yourself with friends, family, keep busy doing things with people that love and care about you. And if all else fails, just sign up for some good counseling. Don't run away, dont' move, it won't fix it, wherever you go, there you are. [luckylasvegas]
I'm sorry to hear you're so upset. I understand you missing someone like that, despite the hurt they've caused you. I've been there, on both sides of the situation. I've been hurt deeply by someone and missed them after they left me. And I've hurt Shawn, my husband - before we were married (did you know we got married?) on more than one occasion, and left him for a while and he missed me and wanted me back.
I hope things get easier for you. Try and move on, eventually you'll hurt less. Talk to you later, -Alisha-
Haha, no I am from Kansas City. But I went there with a friend on vacation. It was the best time of my life! The calamari is the best in the world, along with the crab legs..It is just a fun relaxing place to be. It does rain down there from 2 to 2:30 every day. Its like clock work. Kinda funny actually, Yeah I could never leave this place. Not with all the wonderfull things that people have told me. I would feel wierd leaving. ^_~ But yeah, give it a shot. Who knows what may happen. Expecially at sunset, Oh my god there are no words to describe its beauty. If i knew how to post pics on here I would post some of my vacation. Anyways, i gotta go now. See ya!
I am sorry to hear that she did that to you. I know exactly how that feels. Don't move just yet. Try taking a vacation somehwere for a few weeks or something. Give yourself a break from the same old stuff. I don't know where you are, but I can tell you that a good place to go is Mexico Beach Florida. It's right near Panama. BEAUTIFULL....absolutely. Right on the beach and there is everything you could ever want on the same street. The condos are cheap and wonderfully nice. The bar is right next door. ^_^ Try going there, it is a beautifull place and a lot of fun. ^_~
That's a lot of piercings that you used to have!! Did they hurt? Lol, sure some of the boys in my year act like herbs... well... more like douchebags really but a lot of them are my mates as well and it's fun because we get to dick around a lot of the time.
As for me seeming like I'm mature for my age... that can be debatable lol. You haven't seen me in my stupid mode lol.
How did your doctor's appointment come along? I hope you don't have to have surgery! I've never been in surgery before so I imagine for it to be quite scary! I don't think I could ever go through with it! But I guess I should be quiet because this probably isn't helping you at all in case you really do need to go for an operation!
You'll have to post a picture up of the Honda Prelude when you get it!
Hey no probs about the comment! My pleasure indeed! Haha. Glad to hear that I'm not alone in the kissing department lol. I'm just not interested until I find the right person... and I just bail out all the time at the last minute As for the whole weed thing. I don't have anything against anyone who does it lol. I've just tried it and it didn't do too much. Not saying I won't ever try it again. But yeah lol.
Yeah living in Australia is really awesome. Where abouts do you live? I haven't been out of the country before but I think that we have the best of both worlds in Australia (not being narrow-minded). The beaches are the absolute best! Lol.
Wow sounds like you've been having quite a few dramas the past few. That totally sucks about your mate and your girl. Chicks are too much trouble sometimes... and mates... it totally sucks when they stab you in the back like that. As for your car accident. I'm so sorry to hear about it! I hope that you make a fast recovery and everything else will turn around for you! I hope that you keep that chick outta your life. Youse have been on and off for the past 3 years... that should say something already... and then she goes and sleeps with your mate... well then... that's just the icing on the cake... [KittoB]
Expecially at sunset, Oh my god there are no words to describe its beauty. If i knew how to post pics on here I would post some of my vacation. Anyways, i gotta go now. See ya!
As for the whole weed thing. I don't have anything against anyone who does it lol. I've just tried it and it didn't do too much. Not saying I won't ever try it again. But yeah lol. 
